Ultimatum

My "Significant Other" and I have reached an impasse.  Throughout our relationship, I have made an unlimited amount of sacrifices at her request.  Her happiness is what I lived for and I didn't give it second thought when she asked me to give up certain foods that I loved; social events that I enjoyed; employment that I was good at; houses that I could afford; and friends that I knew before I met her.  The songs I sing, the poetry I write, the dinners I make, and the time I give listeining to her vent about her girlfriends are small sacrifices - ones that gives me comfort.  At 43, I went from a size 34 waist to a 32 waist and lost 15 lbs. because she said I was too fat.  I was more than happy to loose the weight for her.  Although she is very independent, I believe that it is my duty to provide all things for her and to do anything and everything within my power to secure her happiness.  But lately, she has been complaining about me riding my Hog on the weekends.  I work Monday - Friday 5 (sometimes 6) days a week.  The weekends are the only days that I am able to ride.  My job is less than a mile away so riding my Hog to work does nothing for me.  I love riding my Hog, but recently, it has come between my "Significant Other" and I - the ultimatum: my "Significant Other" or my Hog?  Kidding....I'm not!                      

So Twist....just out of curiostity, How's it going with the 2 of you? Has any of the advise here make sence to you? Dude follow the heart, not the heads, and just understand......noone should ever ever make you choose! I hope your not misunderstanding what your lady had to say. ~Vstargrl~

I agree with the suggestion of getting her a bike, or taking her with you on some of your weekend rides.  Maybe take her with ya a few times first, then see about getting her a bike.  I would think sharing the rides with her would be better than losing either one.

So....  where are we at?  What has happened? 

You say that she's very independent.  She can only be that way because your not independent.  Your dependent on her satisfaction, she knows this, and appears, from what your telling us, uses this.  I could be way off base, just going with what you say.  Last thing I would do is get her a bike, one spill or mishap and your to blame.  This is a test on you, and she wants your undivided attention on the weekends.  She sees that you've given up everthing else she has asked, so she's asking this.

Please let us know with an update.  Best o'luck.